“Complain about your situation to Allah and don’t complain about it to His creation. Know for certain that all forms of grief or heartache that come by you are because either He loves you and is therefore testing you, or either He loves you and is therefore purifying you from your sins.”—Sh. Salih al-Maghamisi (via ilm-seeker)
Muslims are obsessed with their "right" or "obligation" to tell others what they’re doing wrong. We speak of enjoining good and forbidding evil, but the illusion is that evil even exists. It doesn’t, there are simply souls lost on their way to their Lord. Never tell a person what they’re doing wrong, but praise them for what they do right, and show them how to do more.
Do Muslim men get motivated to seek Paradise primarily due to the sexual pleasures that they will get there (2 wives from the world and 72 houri re-virginating wives)? If this is the case, then men are sexually perverted in their souls and nature? How about the fate of the women in Paradise? The rewards for worldly women mentioned in the Qur'an or Hadith are apparently discreet. What can you say about this? I think if this is the true nature of men, it is indeed very DISGUSTING.
Men are pretty gross, but Muslim men don’t really sit around and talk about paradise like that. We just don’t.
Like, I know, men are really bad, but like, c’mon now, we really don’t do this.
Also, I have written about this in my index page, and it’s really weird that you took the time to write this, but not search anything there.
But, since I’m here, I’d just like to bring up a few points:
First is a Hadith Qudsi, where God says:
"I have prepared for My righteous servants what no eye has seen, what no ear has heard, and what has not even occurred to a human heart."
While Sheikh Faraz Khan writes:
"So in reality, we cannot truly make ‘sense’ of anything in Paradise – our minds simply do not have the capacity. However Allah Most High has described its pleasures in language that we use, so as to give us approximations [however distant] based on pleasures we experience in this world."
He then goes on to write:
“Muslims do not go about their day-to-day lives thinking of the maidens of Paradise; they are not obsessed with it the way they are often made out to be.”
Anyways, I doubt that anything I say will change your mind, but if you’re going to try and find evidence that men are gross, there’s a much easier route: just log into facebook.
..when raising their children and attempt to incorporate Islam into their lives.
Firstly let me say this, I speak from my own experiences and what I have witnessed first hand. I was sitting among family friends and having lunch. One of our family friends was feeding her son who is in 2nd grade and we were discussing what books he likes to read. His mother was feeding him, spoon after spoon. After a while he refused more spoonfuls and said he was full. Perfectly fine, the kid is full, it’s normal, but of course Arabs don’t understand that concepts and will pressure you into more food. Someone jumped in and said to him “you must finish eating, otherwise your food will go to waste and Allah will punish you severely”
Immediately I jumped in, because leave it up to my lack of patience to do so… “Punish you severely? Really now? That’s the best way you can explain the concept of wasting food and how Allah will deal with him?”
This is the problem with most Muslim adults, they create this dark harsh unmerciful image of God in children’s heads and continue it as they get older. That’s how I was raised. “Allah will do this to you if you don’t do that, Allah will do that you if you do this” ..and I grew up distancing myself away from God because in my head He was evil, harsh, unmerciful, and out to get everyone.
So how is it that you can blame your children for being distant from Islam as they get older, when you have filled their heads up with all these cruel misconceptions of how God will punish and punish and punish us for something so minor as being full and not being able to finish your dish?
The Quran states over and over and over and over and over again how compassionate and merciful God is, so why not fuse those ideas into your conversation?
Your children depend on YOU to help paint an image of the world around them, don’t use force and dark harsh colors when doing so.
Instead of condemning people, lets try to understand them. Lets try to figure out why they do what they do. Thats a lot more profitable and intriguing than criticism; and it breeds sympathy, tolerance and kindness. To know all is to forgive all.
As Dr. Johnson said: God himself, sir, does not propose to judge man until the end of his days. Why should you and I?
”—How to win Friends and Influence People
by Dale Carnegie (via rsvnr)
“If we cannot love the beings that we have seen and amongst whom we live, how can we claim to love Him Whom we have not seen, and Who lies beyond our powers of understanding?”—Ruqayyah Maqsood, The Muslim Marriage Guide (via jannati)
“If the first inward thought is not warded off, it will generate a desire, then the desire will generate a wish, and the wish will generate an intention, and the intention will generate the action, and the action will result in ruin and Divine wrath. So evil must be cut off at its root, which is when it is simply a thought that crosses the mind, from which all the other things follow on.”—Imam Al-Ghazali, Ihya Ulum al-Din (Revival of the Religious Sciences), 6/17 (via storyseldomtold)
“Let not the disease of insincerity and greed that has infiltrated our societies change your individual nature, because it is through just one individual that the entire world can change for the better. It is simply upon us to choose to aspire towards being the next person to spark change towards betterment in the world. Close your eyes, shut out the world, and evaluate yourself. There is no value in the judgment of others. Be your biggest critique, and be your greatest fan. Balance and aspire towards bettering yourself, and live as an example, not as a judge. So many in history have done this, so what’s stopping us?”—Nadir Keval (via nadirkeval)
Why can’t a girl feel good in a hijab and not worry about not being Muslim enough for her community? Because through all the glares, whispering, discrimination, and hate from both Muslims and Non-Muslims, I assure you a little self esteem boost won’t make up for what she has to deal with on a daily basis. Give our Muslim women some credit.
“If the service to a mother equals the quantity of the particles of sand in the desert and the drops of rain on earth, it will not repay for a single day that she kept you in her womb.”—Prophet Muhammad (saws), Mustadrak ul-Wasa’il (via thelittlephilosopher)
So brothers and sisters, you need to realise your potential and ask yourself this question;
'Will I be a recipient of the great rewards from Allaah granted to those who will revive Islaam, or will I be a mere spectator passively watching while my brothers around me are booking for themselves the highest stations in Jannah?'
Because the ones who will revive Islaam again and will sacrifice their lives and their wealth their time and their belongings for Allaah عز وجل will be given a lot of rewards from Allaah عز وجل