Salam everyone I want to ask you all to please make dua for my cousin, she called me this early morning in the hospital she’s having contractions, even though she’s not due till December, it’s her first baby and she’s just really scared, so please make dua everything goes smoothly. Thanks to you all.
Assalamu Alaikum! I need some advice. I dated a guy for a year and wallahi the entire time I felt so guilty. We never did anything Alhamdulillah but I just knew it was wrong. So I said I'm trying to focus on Allah and he said he'll wait. Then a guy I grew up with just confessed his love to me and asked to marry me, idk what to do. My parents would accept the second guy but not the first because of his tribe. Even though I love the first one he wants to wait 4 years to get married and I don't.
Walaikum Assalaam Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuhu,
The first thing we should look for when marrying is how committed the person is to Islam. Prophet Muhammad (sallallahu alayhi was sallam) said, “A woman is normally sought as a wife for her wealth, beauty, nobility, or religiousness (adherence to Islam), but choose a religious woman and you will prosper. ” (Muslim) And he said, “A woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. You should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a loser. “(Bukhari) And he said, “The whole world is a provision, and the best object of benefit of the world is the pious woman. ” (Muslim)
The same holds true when looking for a husband, as the Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi was sallam) said, “When someone with whose religion and character you are satisfied asks to marry your daughter, comply with his request. If you do not do so, there will be corruption and great evil on earth. ” (Tirmidhi)
“A man asked Hasan bin ‘Ali (radi Allah) “I have a daughter and people have proposed to her, so to whom should i marry her?”
He said, “Marry her to one who fears Allah, for if he loves her, he will honor her; and if he hates her, he will not wrong her.“”
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As we look for spouse we make unrealistic expectations but the truth is that no one is perfect and we are made to complete each other. The important factor that we should consider that a person should be God fearing because if he/she is God fearing he/she will fulfill your rights completely because they know that he/she will be answerable on the Day of Judgment.
Love and understanding will build with time in shaa Allah. Marry someone that will bring you closer to Allah Subhanahu wa ta’ala, help you to enter Jannah and help you to elevate your faith in shaa Allah. I suggest you to do istekhara and let your parents decide. Make lots of dua and while asking Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala always say “if it’s good for me” because we don’t know what’s good for us only Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala knows. Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala loves us more than our mother so His decisions are always for our own good and we have to trust Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala.
“But perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you. And Allah Knows, while you know not.” (Quran 2:216)
Always remember this:
“No amount of guilt can change the past and no amount of worrying can change the future. Go easy on yourself for the outcome of all affairs is determined by the decree of Allah. If something is meant to go elsewhere, it will never come on your way, but if it is yours by destiny, from you it cannot flee.”
Umar ibn al Khattab (Radi Allahu Ta’ala Anhu)
I hope it will be helpful. May Allah guide us to the straight path.
Ususally when a duaa is on annoymous it doesnt get much attention but please let this 1 be different. My dad is so so so ill with massive swollen bits on him and i cant cope seeing him like this. I cry everytime i see him hurt, please i beg make duaa
May Allah swt grant your father shifa and a full and quick recovery. Ameen.
“There is no captive in a worse state that the one who is captivated by his worst enemy (Shaytan) and there is no prison which is tighter than the prison of hawā (desire) and there is no bond/fetter more strong than the bond of desire. How, then, will a heart which is captivated, imprisoned, and fettered travel unto Allah and the Home of the Hereafter?”—Ibn Qayyim Al-Jawziyyah (via gordo10bx)
“I am among those individuals who if they hear something virtuous endeavor to spread it; if they see something questionable endeavor to hide it; and if they witness good in people that would move eyes to tears, endeavor to attach their hearts to it.”
“As a student of Quran, I will not answer questions about hadith, fiqh, or aqeeda. We all need to know our limits. We are living in an age where we are so free to express our opinions, that we are kind of reckless in sharing our opinions on matters that we are not fully knowledgeable of. That’s what social media has turned us in to. Everyone has a very strong opinion, and that has to be undone.”—
“You know what the Quran teaches me? The Quran teaches me that an incredibly wealthy man can be a failure (Firaun) and a homeless man can be successful (Prophet Ibrahim). It teaches me that success has nothing to do with wealth and failure has nothing to do with poverty.”—Nouman Ali khan (via islamicrays)