Let not the disease of insincerity and greed that has infiltrated our societies change your individual nature, because it is through just one individual that the entire world can change for the better. It is simply upon us to choose to aspire towards being the next person to spark change towards betterment in the world. Close your eyes, shut out the world, and evaluate yourself. There is no value in the judgment of others. Be your biggest critique, and be your greatest fan. Balance and aspire towards bettering yourself, and live as an example, not as a judge. So many in history have done this, so what’s stopping us?
One of my favorite feelings is that of being on someone’s mind. When someone tells me that they’re thinking of me, or that they saw something that reminded them of a great experience we shared, or anything like that, I can’t help but feel good. To me, being on someone’s mind means that I did something that meant enough to make them want to give me a space in their heart and mind. The human heart and mind becomes more and more caged and protected as it grows older, so to get that space in someone’s life is just incredible. What a blessing.
Oh, and that relationship you had that didn’t end too well…it actually ended perfectly, because it ended in the way that was best for you. Sure, it may have been tough, painful, and difficult, as the end of most relationships are, but ultimately, you were gifted and saved by God from something that could have harmed you even worse had it gone through as you had hoped.
One of the things I believe to be a crucial component of living a healthy lifestyle is something that is outside of nutrition and exercise. It’s about shaping your mindset to strengthen your happiness and contentment. No matter your size or shape, be happy with where you are in life. Be confident in how you are now. Just because you’re working on becoming better, doesn’t mean that who or how you are now isn’t amazing in itself. I believe that too often we take it to the extreme and make ourselves feel that we need to hate who we are now because it’s not the way we “should” be. Be happy with who you are, and constantly try to become a better version of the already awesome you.
In my journey towards settling down and finding someone crazy enough to marry me, I’ve learned a lesson or two. I’m not married yet, so Lord knows if they’re all right, but so far, I feel they’re pretty universal.
First, work on getting your relationship with Allah on point first, before you try to establish or strengthen any relationship with a significant other. If you can’t show the Creator loyalty and respect, how can you expect yourself to do so for the creation? Be willing to be honest with yourself and hold yourself responsible for what you need to work on. Then, work on those things.
Second, know who you are and what you believe in, and recognize what is most important to you. Too many people today jump into marriage or the pursuit of marriage for the wrong reasons. Their priorities are physical release, escape from their current condition, or desperation and loneliness. Be patient. Understand yourself, so you can better navigate through life when your identity is questioned…which is something that happens more often than we care to admit.
I’m not a scholar, sheikh, maulana, imam, or anything like that. These are simply my own personal laws to abide by as I search for a woman to spend the rest of this life and the Hereafter with. Take what I’ve written here with a pound of salt, and then some. I’d love some feedback from fellow single people that are searching for that special someone, or from married couples that could shed some insight based on their own experiences. Leave some thoughts in the comment section under the article on my blog, and maybe we can all learn a thing or two.
It’s impossible to “miss your chance” at something. When an opportunity presents itself, of it, what is written for you will be yours and what isn’t won’t be. There’s no changing that fact. What you should focus on instead, however, is how strongly and wisely you grasp the opportunities that come your way. Work hard at and with what you have. Pursue what you want, but don’t feel that you’ve missed out on something, because the truth is, it wasn’t meant to be yours in the first place. Find peace with that, because the sooner you do that, the happier and more content you will be with what you do have.
Don’t chase anyone or anything. Be the type of person people want to chase, but never let being chased become your purpose. Balance your priorities, and live for you and God. Those who matter will stick by you, and those who don’t will either make you feel like crap for being yourself, or will leave you altogether. Either way, the best approach is to become independent of any and everyone but you and God.
Assalamu alaikum, brother, I wanted to thank you because some of your posts have helped me with life. But I wanted to ask you about some things, kindly link me tosome materials regarding hope and trust in Allah and how I can cope with depression and anxiety please? We’re going through an armada of health, financial, and psychological problems and I can’t stand seeing my mother cry. I am an ‘alright’ following Muslim but I feel that Allah has forgotten me.
Wa alaikum assalaam,
Insha Allah, this reaches you in the best state of health and Imaan. I’m glad to hear that my work has been beneficial to you and has helped you, Alhamdulillah.
First off, I would like to remind you that often, we feel that Allah has forgotten us, but the truth is usually that we aren’t doing our part to get closer to Him. Look at it this way…(read more)
Fight the urge for comfort. Leave it for when you’re taking a break. Push yourself, break through barriers, and go beyond your wildest dreams. Remember, dreams aren’t meant to be a final destination. They are merely a pitstop to the next dream. Live to dream and dream to live. That’s the only way. #dreams #goals #ambitions #passion #life #nevergiveup Picture source: Zedge